Let's debunk the entertaining myth that only the food & beverage-savvy can be successful hosts. Everyone can entertain, and now's the time to learn the fundamentals of being a gracious host!
One of my family's favorite shows is MythBusters . Each episode, hosts Adam and Jamie create a whole series of experiments to definitively prove or debunk a commonly held belief. We've learned that unbelievably, a disgusting mixture of vodka and cinnamon can replicate the qualities of most store-bought mouthwashes, but that contrary to popular belief, you can swim right after eating, with no ill effects.
The typical entertaining myth is that in order to be a successful host, one must possess the etiquette of Emily Post, the cooking skills of Graham Kerr, and the decorating skills of Martha Stewart. In truth, to be a good host, all you need is the desire to welcome people into your space and the courage to do so.
We all know someone who fits the bill of the unwilling host. He's the person who has a pristine home but never uses the living room for fear of dropping a crumb. She's the person with a lovely silver collection, who is perpetually waiting to take it out for a "really special occasion." We also know someone who will invite you in at the drop of a hat. This is the neighbor who may have toys scattered across the family room carpet and a sink full of dirty dishes in the kitchen, but nevertheless, asks you to join her for a cup of coffee ------ just to chat.
Think for a moment about which type of person makes you feel more welcome and at ease...this is the host who's captured the essence of gracious entertaining.
From the first time a youngster has a play date, he has the opportunity to learn about being a gracious host. When a student has an impromptu popcorn party in her dorm room, she's learning to entertain. Several years later, when either of these individuals hosts a more traditional party, they've already mastered the fundamentals of opening their homes to guests.
This comfort level is what I will focus on in the coming months. I'll start at the ground floor and outfit you with the vocabulary of entertaining. I'll discuss theories and trends of entertaining, logistics of parties, resources for food/beverage and special events, communication skills needed to entertain, how to deal with entertaining emergencies, and finally, I'll offer a multitude of neat themes and party ideas.
My door is always open, and I welcome your comments, questions and suggestions.
Janice Benoit
